But the part about me living on my own again does sound intriguing. Frankly, I was much happier when I was single and living alone than I am now. He hasnt touched me for over a year. Tho technically I was only overweight because i had been comfort eating for past 3 years as he still had not touched me in that time. Would she be willing to talk with her doctor about the sexual issues or be willing to work on them in any way? Hopefully, some of my other readers will see your comment and offer some suggestions to you for how to move forward. Did she get that support when she was young and slim? His weight also makes his lethargic and lazy. Typically they stop having sex with their wives due to performance anxiety and lack of desire, and would rather involve themselves in other pursuits than go to a doctor to discuss the problem.
You need to find out why your marriage is sexless. I would lose the weight for myself but him telling me to do it for him as well makes me feel low. Ladyjane1 and Doinwithout: don't assume it is always the female who is withholding or losing interest. Keep pressing for a medical checkup—even if it means calling the doctor and explaining what you think needs to be done and letting the doctor figure out how to convince your husband. What I meant by sexual compatibility is nearly equal amount of sexual desires by the way. Has she ever tried to figure it out? If i argue I get once a month.
Staying is the right thing to do. What happens if she had to go on prednisone and it bloated her body, would it be reasonable for him to leave her? Low estrogen can cause some symptoms that make sex very uncomfortable for many women. He thought he had game, and with me he didn't. I will g to the link you share. I am so afraid that he is going down the same path again. It's really about feeling wanted, feeling loved, feeling appreciated and feeling connected and, in this case, feeling feminine.
Don't for a second think that your husband's weight gain does not bother him. She is currently on about 10 different medications for everything from cholesterol to arthritis to anxiety and depression and other issues. But, I'm not sure it was the weight doing it. We are not like those that just seem to never be satisfied with one person and they constantly have affairs. And then wants dinner and falls asleep on the couch. She probably needs therapy to work out whatever it is that is causing her apathy.
Six months ago, I found him with nail polish on his toes. And it never really made sense. A few weeks ago we had friends over and I had a few too many glasses of wine and called the friend and told him I was attracted to him. Please pray that my wife will do the same! Anti anxiety medication might be needed to do this, because if your fear of sex is greater than the fear of giving birth, than this is a serious phobia. I have been faithful our entire marriage.
My seperation will be time spent on seeking help to fix me. Unfortunately, not only has the cloud come back to earth, I feel like I am under the earth! I was unfaithful in past relationships. I suspect that their reason was they want their children to have a different last name than ours. That was and is an idea that was repugnant to me and now I look back and realize how far I was drive. The issue was a cyst that has been removed. Even if you have to see a counselor alone it will help you work through the pain and issues in your marriage.
I went to counselling, figured out it was not my fault we found ourselves at this juncture in life. . I worked hard—not for forgiveness, but to learn to do better and be better going forward. Then, I too, began turning to food for comfort. I love my wife and have great empathy for her and don't want to hurt her.
Take the things away from him that enforce being lazy and if he wants to watch T. But true love is not limited to physical apperance. And it also sounds like you are getting defensive and trying to turn it around to make him look like a bad guy, and that's not fair to him. It is possible that your son and his wife preferred a name that was less ethnic or easier to spell. Instead, it sounds like she has developed a food addiction. We've been married for 22 years and have argued and settled just about every situation a relationship can have except death. I wanted him to slow down with sex and take the time I needed to get involved.